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{October 4, 2010}   My 15 Minutes of Fame

Hi everyone! Welcome….Come in, have a seat! My week was incredibly awesome! You know when you just have a great week? Nothing extraordinary happened, it was just a great week. Don’t you just love those days?

One unusual thing did happen though. I have been a Days of Our Lives fan for almost 30 years. Yep, since I was about 11 years old. Back when Marlana was fighting her increasing feelings for Roman….the first go round. So when my smart phone emailed me to tell me I had a new twitter follower, I knew the name right away. After all, his storyline has had him playing the villain, the good guy fighting not to be like his devilish (the one we love to hate) father and the tortured soul that earned him the love and respect of Days fans worldwide. And of course, those of us with a romantic soul couldn’t help but fall in love with his character as he was falling in love with the one and only love of his life, Anna.

That’s right folks, Thaao Penghlis also known by his Days’ character, Tony (and at one time, Tony’s EVIL cousin, Andre….but we’ll save that for another time).

As I looked at my phone and did a double take to confirm it was indeed Thaao’s name, I became so excited!! I’ve always loved his character and Thaao’s acting as well. And HE chose to follow ME! Wow. I have a few celebrities that follow my twitter and blog, so I just figured maybe he just saw me on one of the Days twitter pages, thought I was someone else and added me. Maybe he had heard about my blog from the couple of actors that read it regularly. I really didn’t care the how or why, he was following me! And I loved it!

Within a few minutes, I went straight to my computer to verify what I actually was reading on my phone. I was still shocked that the man I had admired and the heart of the “DiMera” family would pick me to follow! Seriously guys, I have really liked Thaao since I was just a kid. I hadn’t asked him to follow me, in fact, I didn’t even know he was on twitter.

Alas, it was not meant to be. By the time I got on my laptop, he was no longer following me. So apparently he didn’t know about my blog (shucks). Or, he found out quickly, that I was not someone he knew. I was indeed disappointed. Thaao dumped me. I was being dumped by a twitter celebrity, a long time favorite of mine twitter celebrity.

That was the end of my, well, lets say five minutes, of fame. However, I have to say how cool it was, that for just a few minutes someone I felt like I grew up knowing, noticed me! Well, ok, maybe he didn’t notice me. But he did follow me……for about five minutes! And that is good enough for me

Until next time….Peace



Welcome everyone!

As I was thinking of my next post, something else was brewing in the back of my mind. If I could go back 15 years or so, what would I do different? As the list got longer and longer, it was certain I would have to blog about this! Maybe some younger women my age will think twice about somethings before following through thinking it will not affect their future. Truth is, sometimes it does.

So, here we go!

15 Things I Wish I Could Tell My 20 Year Old Self


 1.  Take your time. You don’t have to be in such a hurry to have everything  

      and do everything. It won’t matter in ten years anyway.

  2.  Take the time, everyday, to let your husband, and your family, know

       you love them. Sometimes you forget to tell them, stop and remember.

  3. When your brother visits you by surprise one morning to tell you he loves you,

       WAKE up completely, get out of bed and have breakfast with him.

       You’ll know when this day comes.

4.  You’re just now coming out of your shell. Don’t be so hard on your loved

     ones. Don’t hold on to the little things that bother you so tightly. It’s not worth


5.  Don’t be so stubborn and prideful. Learn to compromise, some pride is

      good, too much pride can ruin you in the end and leave you with nothing.

 6. You are beginning to learn new things about yourself and will soon grow to love the person you are.

     Hold tight to her, don’t let her get lost in the fast pace and hardships of life. Hold very, very tightly.

 7.  Remain strong in your beliefs. You don’t have to be arrogant to get your point across. In the end, it doesn’t

      matter who was right or wrong, it matters who did their best to help others. Redirect that “I have to be right”

     energy into helping others. You will get much more self satisfaction than if you are always trying to prove

     yourself right.

 8. Be very weary of so called friends. What you see on the surface, but feel in your gut, IS an honest gut feeling.

    This person is NOT your friend. Stay clear of this person and don’t let him/her come between you and Guy.

    I can’t stress this enough. You will know him when the time comes.

 9. Let your true self show and shine! Forget trying to please others. Do what you feel is right and others

     will see from your actions and know you have integrity.

10. When you start your family, don’t be so hard on your kids. Remember spanking isn’t always the solution.

       Just learn to learn from them. By the time they are a little older, you’ll regret a lot of choices you made when   

       you chose to spank. And there are no “take backs”.

 11. I KNOW how badly you want to, but DO NOT get that tattoo on your lower back with the initial “g” for

       your husband. And don’t joke about “if you ever get a divorce, you’ll just say it stands for Garth Brooks”.

      You’ll come to realize, it’s not funny. And Garth won’t be on top forever!

 12. Do not get the tattoo on your ankle…or at least let someone else do it. It will come out to look like

         something you most definitely do not want! Nothing like the “feather” you want!

 13. I know, at times, you and your mother-in-law butt heads. Don’t be so indignant of it. You know you

        love her and believe it or not, she does love you.  She tells you this…believe her. You’ll have your ups and

       downs, but NEVER let her think that you don’t love her. Always be respectful, even when disagreeing.

      It’s just not worth fighting and losing her in your life. She will not turn her back on you, although sometimes,

      you may feel that way. Assume she has other things going on, because she does. Sometimes, it has got

      nothing to do with you.  Sometimes, she just doesn’t know how to handle things. Trust in her and trust

      in the fact that no matter what, she does love you.  

14. Never ever fight in front of the kids. Ever. Always stay on top of your credit and pay your bills on time.

      You don’t want to lose that. 

15. Never doubt that Guy is your one and only love. Treat him that way. Everyday, show him.

       Each day that God gives you with him, be the wife he needs you to be. He loves you very much right now,

      don’t ever jeopardize that. You will never stop loving him. Things may change, but you will love him forever.

      He is your best friend. Don’t lose that. Don’t give him reason to ever lose respect for you.

     The way you feel right now, that you can’t live without him, you still feel 17 years later. Don’t lose that.

And one most thing to add……when your heart is broken, it WILL HEAL….don’t be scared to look at what has

changed in your life and see it for the reality it now is.


See ya soon,


Until next time…..PEACE


Hi everyone!

Sorry it’s been so long since my last post. I’ve felt a bit depressed of late. Some of you know I that I am moving at the end of the month. I love, absolutely love, the home I am in now and am despondent over having to leave. I also, feel that in some ways, I have disappointed my kids, my family and myself.

However, in life, sometimes we all have to make choices. Some may be turn out to be wrong decisions, some will lead you to a better life. Still, having to move this time, sucks. I am 40 years old, have three kids and having to move back in with my parents. On the surface, how pathetic is that? However, this decision, as disappointing as it may seem now, is actually one of those decisions that will turn out to better each of our lives in the long run. Actually, not so long run…. about two years. So, giving up my independence, my kids home, moving in with my parents will allow me to finish school earlier, pay off every bill I owe, buy my daughter a car (which she needs so much now) and if we stay another year or two, possibly buy our own home. So although it sucks now, it will benefit us in so many ways with which I would not be able to accomplish if my parents had not opened their home to us, would take us much, longer to do, if ever.

My parents know how much my independence means to me. I mean, not many grown adults, especially with kids, can live under the same roof as their parents again. It’s tough. Even for those of us who have a great relationship with our parents. My kids are just like me. They want independence, they want their own home, not having to live with family.

I say all that, to tell you this: my father, my loving sometimes irritating dad (I love you dad!) without me asking or even considering the idea, is turning his garage into a temporary home for us. How considerate is that!

My dad and mom have forever been there for me and for my kids. Emotionally, and monetarily when needed. This is just another gesture of their generosity. Although, I have to credit dad with this idea!

My parents have given me, with this temporary home, independence, a sense that we are holding our own (as I refuse NOT to pay them something in rent) and in two years or less, I will be debt free, including my daughter’s car, and finishing up school. I will finally be able to take that last step in moving forward with my life by changing my situation from barely getting by to becoming debt free and saving for a better life.

So, turns out this decision is one of the smartest decisions I probably could have made. The kids have accepted this and in time, they will understand why this decision was the one I had to make today. I can only pray that they will see me as a stronger person for making this choice and be thankful for making it.

My dad has been looking for a poem he read years and years ago, I was still in high school. It was since misplaced. Actually, it was in an old family album with my basketball pictures, and I had borrowed the album to make copies. So, dad, with love I dedicate your favorite poem to you, here for the world (at least my wonderful followers) to see:


 4 Years:  My Daddy can do anything. 

 7 Years:  My Dad knows a lot, a whole lot.

 8 Years:  My Father doesn’t know quite everything.

12 Years: Oh well, naturally Father doesn’t know that either.

14 Years:  Father? Hopelessly old fashioned.

21 Years:  Oh, that man is out of date. What did you expect?

25 Years:  He knows a little bit about it, but not much.

30 Years:  Maybe we ought to find what dad thinks.

35 Years:  A little patience. Let’s get Dad’s assessment before we do anything.

50 Years:  I wonder what Dad would have thought about that. He was pretty smart.

60 Years:  My Dad knew absolutely everything!

65 Years:  I’d give anything if Dad were here so I could talk this over with him.

                     I really miss that man.

Til next time…..PEACE


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